Let’s face it – growing up is hard. Grown ups, for years, have been throwing it in your face. Anytime you made a fundamental mistake in your youth, you were categorically told, “You’re lucky you’re young now. A couple of years later, and you’d be in rotten soup. What’re you going to do when you grow up?” But here’s the thing. Growing up is a process. And there’s a difference between growing up and growing old. The years will come, they always do. But the wisdom? That’s elusive.
But there’s a way around it. It’s called being independent.
Human nature is pretty damn straightforward. You like something – you continue indulging in it. You create a routine – more often than not, you’re going to stick to it. Somehow, this doesn’t apply to exercise, but that’s a different story.
The trick, however, is to step out of your comfort zone. Simply put, this is the only sure shot way to growing up. And the best way to change things up is to stay on your own.
Living alone has got to be one of the 7 Life Changing Experiences to try. The simple reason being independence. No one’s saying being dependent is a weakness, not at all. But independence puts your life in your hands, and it’s up to you to make it or break it. A gradual process, if you may, which is the way growing up is meant to be.
When you’re staying with your folks, often things come easy. You won’t realize it, because hey, taking things for granted is so terribly easy to do. But it’s true. Food comes on the table, your laundry’s taken care of, electricity is covered – daily chores and processes are established, and you’re just a participant in it all.
When you’re on your own, on the other hand, realistically speaking, you’ve got to account for every second of your day. As a result, you’re forced to think of every little detail of your life, and more importantly, you’re responsible for every single one of them.
It’s terrifying when you think about it. How are you going to do it? How are you going to make ends meet? Are you going to manage? What if you fail? The questions and the doubt are unending. And sorry to break it to you, they will continue to be unending. So make things simpler for yourself and stop thinking about it. Instead, act on it. You’ll be amazed at how well you do for yourself, and a simple thing like getting your own gas connection will be cause for celebration. You haven’t wrestled with bureaucracy, which is why you don’t get the analogy.
But one day, very soon, you will.
So, just do it. Make a conscious decision to step out of life as you know it, and take full responsibility for it. You’re only going to become a superhero in the process, barring the fact that you’re still not going to be able fly. But who cares? You’re going to soar.