Let me just put this out in the world: AGE NO BAR IN RELATIONSHIPS
Now read it again, till it’s ingrained in your brain.
The only reason I did that is so you can put things into perspective. Since we’ve hit teenage, our parents have been telling us about what the ideal boy is like. They can’t tell us who he is, because where’s the fun in that? But in short, he should meet certain criteria in your book of principles and values. He should be kind, and generous. He should love you and your family like his own. And he should be your age. Or older.
Except that, the times are changing, and more women are choosing their own partners. Which means mommy-daddy-grandmommy-granddaddy-aunt-uncle-etc aren’t really getting you a shortlist of so-to-speak eligible bachelors. WHICH means the responsibility of this task lies with you, and when has luck favored you?
In this scenario, the boys/men/figurative-male-children you meet aren’t really in your control. But one thing’s for sure. You don’t need to date someone your age. In fact, sometimes you shouldn’t date someone your age. Simply to spice things up. And honestly, we don’t do that enough. So here goes. This is why you need to date someone younger than you at least once in your life.
1. He’s younger than you.
Believe it or not, this is the most important reason to date him. Dead serious. He’s not your age, he doesn’t think like you, he’s likely a little childish, and all of this is going to keep YOU young at heart. Which has ‘win’ written all over it.
2. He’s not reached the stage you have in life, and that makes it easy for you to be a friend to him.
The fact that you’ve been there done that, and he hasn’t is territory enough for great conversation. You get to guide him and give him an informed opinion and be a pillar of support. In the bargain, you act like a friend to him. Which is honestly the most important part of any relationship.
3. He’s not going to feel threatened by you doing well for yourself.
Because you two are at two different stages of life, he’s not going to a whiner when he sees you doing well for yourself. If anything, he’s going to be thrilled about your successes and conquests, and you will be more than happy to share these with him.
4. He’s always going to look up to you.
Let’s face it, a girl at 23 is more mature than a boy at 23. So a girl at 25 is going to be a goddess for a boy at 23. He’ll be happy to know that he has someone sensible and reliable rooting for him. Not consciously of course, but you get the point.
5. He’s going to keep you grounded.
But that’s not to say he’s not going to give you a strong opinion when required. The fact that he’s younger, and more free-spirited than you are, ensures that he’ll be one of your best judges. There’s no getting lost in the clouds with this one.
6. This could be a little below the belt if you’re all age-conscious, but he’s going to make sure you keep up with the times.
The stuff he reads, the shows he watches, the company he keeps are largely going to be different from yours. So it’s a great way to be tuned into what’s happening in the times. In fact, between the two of you, you guys cover about a decade of it.
7. He’s great in bed.
He’s young, he’s agile and he’s going to keep you happy in the sheets. Happy sheet! #LOL
8. He’s full of hopes and dreams.
You’ve had a couple of years over him on the planet. So it’s only natural that he’s going to be bursting with energy about all the things he wants to do. And you get to be a part of that special journey. If he’s not bursting with energy, don’t even start on anything.
9. He’s going to keep you young at heart.
This tops everything. You’re finally going to get off your high horse and live in the moment. And he’s going to have a huge role to play in it.